There is no question that life moves at a much faster pace now than at any point in history. In that sense, it really is quite the time to be alive. Our technological progress allows us to do things that would have been impossible a generation ago. It has, in so many ways, made life easier and more comfortable. The result has been that almost all of us fall prey to the notion all new technological developments are beneficial and therefore we need to incorporate all new technologies into our lives.[Read more…] about Finding Meaning through Deep Work
Here’s a prediction: If you’re reading this post, your life needs to slow down. For all the ways that our society has improved over the last generation, the undeniable side effect is that the pace of life has sped up considerably. As I noted in this post, experts from the last century predicted that the advance of technology would actually have the opposite effect: that it would slow life down considerably. Experts predicted that future generations would only work a few hours per week because technology would make accomplishing tasks much simpler and quicker. Well, technology has made accomplishing tasks much simpler and quicker. In my profession, instead of mailing a document to another attorney, who would then review the document, suggest revisions, and mail it back, we now just email documents back and forth. A process that took days and weeks now takes minutes. Such examples abound in most professions. [Read more…] about The Unhurried Life: Finding Ways to Slow Down
In last week’s post, I talked about five pitfalls that will derail our parenting efforts and how we need to know our ultimate goal, our end game, for our kids. When we know our end game, we can reverse engineer the process of getting there. My ultimate goal with my kids is for them to have lives of deep contentment where they add value to the world. As I’ve written repeatedly (see here and here and here), in order for men to have deep levels of contentment with their, we must live in accordance with their nature as men. Our nature as men leads us to esteem strength, courage, productivity, and honor. Because we esteem these things internally (perhaps even subconsciously), we must develop them in order to have a deep level of contentment with ourselves as men. Men who are weak, timid, fearful, cowardly, unproductive, incapable, or isolated will never experience deep fulfillment with their lives and will never deliver their potential value to the world.
What’s more, even men who are strong, courageous, skillful, and surrounded by other men will still feel a bit restless until they employ these virtues and relationships in pursuit of a purpose that is meaningful and larger than their well-being. It’s not enough for a man to be capable and connected, he needs a worthy mission. That gives us some clue on how to raise our boys, on what we should pursue and what we should avoid. So, here are five things that all fathers of boys need to do. [Read more…] about Boys to Men: Five Rules for Raising Sons
Let’s get this straight up front: parenting is not easy. There is no road map that lays out every step to take to lead your children to successful adulthood. There are plenty of judgment calls. Life is ever-changing, full of seasons for us, our spouse, and our kids. What’s more, our kids are individuals with their own thoughts, interests, and temperaments, and personalities. And even during those times when we seems to have things under control, life throws a curve ball. As a result, most fathers spend a lot of time wondering if they’re doing a good job raising their children. Next week, I’m going talk about raising sons in particular. Today, I’m going to look at five temptations that will derail our parenting. [Read more…] about Five Pitfalls of Parenting
Summer is a fantastic time for kids. It’s hot outside, school’s out, and their days can be spent on leisure and fun. And that’s how must of a child’s summer should be spent: pursuing unstructured outdoor activities. But, that doesn’t mean that every responsibility in life goes out the window and life just becomes one big party for 10 weeks. [Read more…] about A New Summer Project for Kids