There’s a lot of talk these days about the “the One Percent”, that top group of income earners. And, yeah, everyone wants to join that group. But if you’re reading this site, you’re here because you want to be a better man and get better at the things that the world needs men to do well. Today, I’m going to share a secret about how to get into the One Percent, how to be a better man than 99% of the men in the world. And I promise you, it’s not what you think.[Read more…] about How to Be in the Top One Percent of Men
Almost nothing changes a man’s life like becoming a father. Not marriage. Not a new job. Not individual achievements and accomplishments. All of those things impact us and change our lives, but they don’t compare to becoming a father. Until that moment, our lives are centered on pursuing our own interests. But then we meet that little one: that little boy that we’d always dreamed of having or that little girl that instantly melts our heart. In that moment, men walk through a door from which we can never return. Our hearts have been captured, never to be the same again.
As a result, our focus in life changes. Our previous goals and interests suddenly become smaller, less important. Life now becomes about caring for and supporting that child that owns our heart. It’s both beautiful and dangerous. [Read more…] about The Best Fathers
One of the cool things about the Internet is that it allows us to connect with so many people that otherwise we would not have known. We learn new ideas, see new perspectives, and are introduced to new personalities that we would never have encountered otherwise. There is now a Facebook group, Twitter feed, or message board for any and every interest and type of person. Without much trouble, we can all connect online with people who share our worldview and our values. Personally, I love interacting with people on social media to discuss ideas. In fact, if we haven’t connected on Twitter and/or Facebook, let’s change that. These sites are fantastic places to initiate relationships. But the poison is in often in the dose. [Read more…] about Internet Friends
Have you ever met someone who didn’t think they were busy? Go ahead, try to find someone who’s not “busy”; it’s damn near impossible. From the college students having to study for the first time to the twenty-somethings in their first jobs, from the 40-year-olds with their multiple kids to the retirees trying out a second career, babysitting grandchildren, or traveling – everyone thinks they’re busy. And while this may be more perception than reality, it’s the perception that matters when it comes to building relationships and a creating good life experiences. [Read more…] about Too Damn Busy
Earlier this year, the Boston Globe ran an article about how the biggest threat to men as they move through adulthood isn’t smoking or obesity, it’s a lack of friendships. The article cited research conducted over the last 35 years showing that people who are socially isolated are around 30% more likely to die prematurely. This phenomenon led the US Surgeon General to state repeatedly that the biggest health issue facing our country isn’t heart disease, cancer, or obesity, but isolation. And, unfortunately, men without friends is fast becoming the rule, not the exception. [Read more…] about Men Need a Tribe, Part I