Can one be both masculine and decent? Or does displaying kindness, manners, and politeness inevitably lead to weakness? President George H. W. Bush made it clear that a man can embrace both the masculine virtues of strength, courage, productivity, and honor, and the softer virtues of kindness and decency. To reach his highest potential, a man needs both the masculine virtues and the softer virtues.[Read more…] about Masculine Decency: What Men Can Learn from George H. W. Bush
My mom died from lymphoma just after I turned nine years old. The next few years were, as you can imagine, really difficult. Moms are important to boys that age, and I was no exception. After she died, I had access to a small trunk that contained some of her belongings: yearbooks, jewelry, pictures, and various odds and ends from high school. As I was sifting through that stuff, I also found a diary that she kept while she was in the hospital.[Read more…] about Keep a Journal for Your Kids . . . about Your Kids
We all like to think that we’re killing this parenting thing, that we’re setting high standards for our kids. While setting high standards is great, it carries a temptation that we’ll start viewing ourselves only as the one who sets standards, gives instructions, and holds other people accountable, rather than someone who holds himself accountable to receiving instruction and meeting high standards. We become hypocritical as men and as leaders when we are more demanding of others than we are of ourselves. Check the video for a further breakdown:
Almost nothing changes a man’s life like becoming a father. Not marriage. Not a new job. Not individual achievements and accomplishments. All of those things impact us and change our lives, but they don’t compare to becoming a father. Until that moment, our lives are centered on pursuing our own interests. But then we meet that little one: that little boy that we’d always dreamed of having or that little girl that instantly melts our heart. In that moment, men walk through a door from which we can never return. Our hearts have been captured, never to be the same again.
As a result, our focus in life changes. Our previous goals and interests suddenly become smaller, less important. Life now becomes about caring for and supporting that child that owns our heart. It’s both beautiful and dangerous. [Read more…] about The Best Fathers
Becoming a man; that’s a boy’s greatest and deepest pursuit. But when does it happen, when does a boy become a man? While one can focus on biological markers that are connected to puberty, it takes more than age and physical development to turn a boy into a man. Instead, a boy becomes a man when he takes responsibility for his life, rather than assuming that someone else (typically his parents) is responsible for him. In short, he becomes a man when he decides to be the dad over his own life. [Read more…] about Be Your Own Dad