Most males in our society are looking for ways to become a man. There was a time when their path was clear. It is less clear today than ever. In his 2016 book, Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging, author Sebastian Junger posed the question “How does one become a man in a world that doesn’t require courage?” Junger recognized that (1) exhibiting courage is one of the way that manhood is demonstrated and (2) society no longer requires men to exhibit courage in order to survive. Because courage is a Masculine Virtue, a value that is fundamental to man’s existence and self-concept, men are left confused on how to be a man. This post is an attempt to answer Junger’s question.[Read more…] about 30 Ways to Become a Man in a World that Doesn't Require Courage
The Cure for Your Turmoil
The cure for your turmoil is to get your life right. I see questions from guys all the time about how to have more confidence, how to improve their relationships, how to escape depression, how to control their anger, etc. In almost every case, the answer lies in getting their lives in order. I explain more in this video.
Identifying Your Next Mission: Bringing Back Physicality
In the military, a mission is a smaller subset of a larger overall purpose. While the purpose in Iraq may have been to overthrow Saddam, defeat the Iraqi army, and rid individual areas of insurgents so that a democratic government could be instituted and thrive, that plan was carried out via thousands of coordinated missions. So, in the process of finding your next mission, you must be ever mindful of the larger purpose, calling, or vision for your life. This helps to ensure that each particular mission contributes to that purpose. Don’t get hung up on particular terminology here, just understand the difference between the overarching plan/goal/vision/purpose/mission and the smaller missions that are used to achieve the larger one. For ease of use, I’m going to refer to the overarching plan/goal/vision/mission as one’s “purpose” and the smaller ones as the “mission”. But these aren’t gospel, so feel free to think of them in your own way. [Read more…] about Identifying Your Next Mission: Bringing Back Physicality
Excerpt: Manhood and The Hero’s Journey
Manhood and The Hero’s Journey is currently an e-book that examines why men are discontent, restless, disillusioned, depressed, anxious, and often suicidal. Below is the first chapter. For more information and to purchase a copy, click here.
Chapter One: The Walking Dead
“The life we’d planned on living seems a thousand miles away, and there’s no way to get there from here.”
Monster.com’s 1999 Super Bowl ad was brilliant. It featured kids talking about what they wanted to be when they grew up. But, they weren’t talking about how they aspired to do great things. Instead, they declared their dreams to “file all day” and to “claw [their] way up through middle management”. The wanted to “be a Yes Man”, and to “be replaced on a whim”. The ad was brilliant because it highlighted the truth that no one starts out hoping to be average. Each of us had dreams that involved greatness. Unfortunately, for too many, those dreams are long gone. They’ve been covered up by years of fear, procrastination, and the onslaught of life. [Read more…] about Excerpt: Manhood and The Hero’s Journey