The difference between success and failure often boils down one thing: confidence. If you take two men of equal abilities, with one having confidence and the other lacking, the confident man will be more successful nearly every time. Confidence can propel someone to achieve things that would not have been possible without it. It leads men to hit game-winning shots and home runs. It leads men to plan battles that change the course of history. It leads men to initiate relationships with beautiful women. In short, it allows men to maximize their God-given abilities. On top of that, it makes us happier. A confident man is not always happy, but a happy man is almost always confident.[Read more…] about How to Build Confidence
Do men still need “manly skills”? While they might not be necessary to survive, they’re still necessary to thrive. There’s no question that we don’t live in the same world that our grandfathers inhabited. Our economy is built on specialization, with each person or company having a particular niche, with the result being that none of us is forced to develop a broad array of skills in order to navigate through life. This phenomenon is further bolstered by the advance in technology, which enables most men to live their lives by pushing buttons. Many of the manly skills that were necessary a few generations ago are optional now, at least in terms of being able to provide financially.[Read more…] about Are Manly Skills Obsolete for the Average Man?
Let’s get this straight up front: parenting is not easy. There is no road map that lays out every step to take to lead your children to successful adulthood. There are plenty of judgment calls. Life is ever-changing, full of seasons for us, our spouse, and our kids. What’s more, our kids are individuals with their own thoughts, interests, and temperaments, and personalities. And even during those times when we seems to have things under control, life throws a curve ball. As a result, most fathers spend a lot of time wondering if they’re doing a good job raising their children. Next week, I’m going talk about raising sons in particular. Today, I’m going to look at five temptations that will derail our parenting. [Read more…] about Five Pitfalls of Parenting
In the military, a mission is a smaller subset of a larger overall purpose. While the purpose in Iraq may have been to overthrow Saddam, defeat the Iraqi army, and rid individual areas of insurgents so that a democratic government could be instituted and thrive, that plan was carried out via thousands of coordinated missions. So, in the process of finding our next mission, we must be ever mindful of the larger purpose, calling, or vision for our lives, so that we can ensure that each particular mission contributes to that purpose. Don’t get hung up on particular terminology here, just understand the difference between the overarching plan/goal/vision/purpose/mission and the smaller missions that are used to achieve the larger one. For ease of use, I’m going to refer to the overarching plan/goal/vision/mission as one’s “purpose” and the smaller ones as the “mission”. But these aren’t gospel, so feel free to think of them in your own way. [Read more…] about Identifying Your Next Mission, Part I: Bringing Back Physicality