Books on masculinity and manhood are hard to find, but the ones below are sure to help you to become the man you need to be. Reading good books gives clarity to your thoughts, inspires, enlightens, educates, and challenges you, and makes you a better writer. Here are some books on masculinity that have my recommendation.
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul by John Eldredge
“My hunt actually has little to do with elk. There is something else I’m after out here in the wild. I am searching for an even more elusive prey . . . something that can only be found through the help of wilderness. I am looking for my heart.”
“Can a man live all his days to keep his fingernails clean and trim? Is that what a boy dreams of?”
Author John Eldredge has created a must-read on masculinity and being a man. For men who have been tamed by society, by their jobs, or by their wives, this book will reawaken the wildness within and stir you to a life that fascinates. You can get it from Amazon here.
The Way of Men by Jack Donovan
“To truly understand The Way of Men, we must look for where the masculinity of the gangster overlaps with the masculinity of the chivalrous knight, where modern ideas overlap with ancient ones. We must look at the phenomenon of masculinity amorally and as dispassionately as we can. We must find what Man knows for certain, concerning his vital relations to this mysterious Universe. Men want to be good men because good men are well regarded, but being a good man isn’t the same as being good at being a man.”
There’s probably no book on masculinity that explains what it means to be a man better than The Way of Men. Donovan’s delineation of the Masculine Virtues of Strength, Courage, Mastery, and Honor provide a clear path for men in the development of their masculinity. While Donovan himself is a controversial figure, this book is a valuable contribution to the discussion of who men have been and ought to be. Click here to buy your copy at Amazon.
Gates of Fire: An Epic Novel of the Battle of Thermopylae by Steven Pressfield
“When a warrior fights not for himself, but for his brothers, when his most passionately sought goal is neither glory nor his own life’s preservation, but to spend his substance for them, his comrades, not to abandon them, not to prove unworthy of them, then his heart truly has achieved contempt for death, and with that he transcends himself and his actions touch the sublime.”
Author Steven Pressfield’s fictional tale of the Battle of Thermopylae, where the 300 Spartans made their stand against the Persians is an ode to masculinity, to men who embodied the Masculine Virtues laid out by Donovan and who put them to use on behalf of each other and their nation. Tales of heroism abound. It will both inspire you and show you how far the standard for men has fallen. Get a copy on Amazon here.
Damn Few: Making the Modern SEAL Warrior by Rorke Denver
“What we teach is pure SEAL. The lessons are simple, clear, and well-defined: They come right out of our basic values. Winning pays. Losing has consequences. Nothing substitutes for preparation. Life isn’t fair and neither is the battlefield. Even the smallest detail matters. We are a brotherhood. Our success depends on our team performance. And we will not fail.”
“To all of those who have been downrange, to us and those like us, Damn Few.”
Navy SEAL Commander Rorke Denver spent plenty of time in the hellholes of the Middle East fighting the enemies of our country. When he returned, he was put in charge of overseeing and developing the BUD/S program that trains the next generation of Navy SEALs. This book tells his story of life in BUD/S, giving an inside look into what masculinity means when challenged to its core. Find it here on Amazon.
Lone Survivor: The Eyewitness Account of Operation Redwing and the Lost Heroes of SEAL Team 10 by Marcus Luttrell
“I tried to get a hold of myself. But again in my mind I heard that terrible, terrible scream, the same one that awakens me, bullying its way into my solitary dreams, night after night, the confirmation of guilt. The endless guilt of the survivor. ‘Help me, Marcus! Please help me!’ It was a desperate appeal in the mountains of a foreign land. It was a scream cried out in the echoing high canyons of one of the loneliest places on earth. It was the nearly unrecognizable cry of a mortally wounded creature. And it was a plea I could not answer. I can’t forget it. Because it was made by one of the finest people I ever met, a man who happened to be my best friend.”
Navy SEAL Marcus Luttrell was the only survivor of Operation Red Wings, an assassination attempt gone wrong in the mountains of Afghanistan. His story, which is also the story of his three SEAL teammates in their fight for survival despite being vastly outnumbered by a determined enemy, shows the Masculine Virtues in full display. Watch the movie, but be sure to read the book as well, found here on Amazon.